I find it really hard as a business owner and mama to slow down on the weekends. Especially during a season where productive time already feels limited and the weekdays blend in with the weekends because we rarely leave the house. Then there’s the challenge of staying focused during the workweek when I can’t see past the pile of dishes in the sink and the laundry that has become a permanent part of my living room chair. And let’s not discuss trying to recall 8th-grade math.
When I feel like I’m failing as a business owner, employee, mother, and math teacher I need reminders that no one expects me to be perfect. That’s why I write notes to myself. Not just to-do list reminders. I write notes to remind the stressed-out version of myself to be kind. I have them on my bathroom mirror and on my desk in my office. They remind me to relax. They remind me that whatever I accomplish that day is enough for that day. They remind me that I am strong, resilient, and capable. While it sounds like such a simple practice, it’s one that I rely on to keep persevering.
Your thoughts impact your feelings and behaviors. Your thoughts affect your self-esteem, your relationships, and your ability to show up as the best version of yourself.
Something as simple as reading an affirmation can help you rewire your brain and improve your mindset. The small act of looking in a mirror and speaking affirmations to yourself can result in a major shift in your mood, outlook, and confidence in your own abilities. Give it a try over the course of the next week.
Follow these steps:
Think about the times during your week when you feel the most overwhelmed. [Maybe you're someone who needs a reminder during the workweek rather than the weekend. Maybe it's when you're putting your kids down for bedtime. Maybe it's when you're about to cook your 80th meal for the week.]
Write a note to yourself on a post-it. Write down whatever you want to remember at that moment. Maybe it's a word - like relax or breathe. Maybe it's an affirmation - like You are capable. Whatever you think you need at that moment, write it down now - while you are not in the middle of a stress response.
Next, put it in a place where you know you will see it when experiencing stress - on your laptop, the fridge, or the door to your child's bedroom. Use it as a visual reminder to yourself when you most need it.
Over time, notice how these reminders impact your thoughts when you are stressed. Does it cause you to pause and question the stressful thoughts racing through your mind? Does it help ground you in the present moment and regain control of your response to whatever is happening around you? You will be surprised how these tiny messages can impact your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
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Hi! I’m Crystalynn, a mom of two and a certified coach. I help moms on the brink of burnout to manage their stress, regain balance in their lives, and develop the skills and strategies they need to thrive as parents and individuals. The practice of visual reminders is one of many strategies I share with the Moms I coach. If you want to learn more about how I support my clients with private coaching, schedule a free session. For more tips on handling stress, follow me on Instagram.